Survival Stories

What are your domestic violence survival stories?

I would have left my abusive relationship right after the violence started, had I known what I was dealing with. Instead, I thought my abuser had momentarily "lost it". I believed the promise that it would never happen again, as I had NEVER experienced anything like it in my life.

Domestic violence touches not only the victim, but the entire family, loved ones, friends, co-workers and entire communities. We all have stories to share!

Knowledge is power! If no one shares, no one knows and domestic violence is allowed to continue and spread. On the other hand, through sharing our stories we become informed, empowered and encouraged.

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Get Out - It Won't Change 
You think it might change. Remember the first time, the shock of it? Then came the "I'm sorry" over and over, it will never happen again. And it didn't, …

Torn - Why Battered Women Stay 
I met my now-ex when I was in college. I dated his friend. During this time, I witnessed one "episode" where he was irrational with his girlfriend at the …

summer at my dads 
Garrett was the boy of my dreams; tall, athletic with dark green eyes and a smile that would melt your heart. He was outgoing and made friends easily the …

Still Living With The Person Who Hits Me Almost Every Other Day a.k.a My Husband.  
I met my husband 2 years ago. It was love at first sight. I went against everyone in order to be with him, my parents, my siblings, everyone. They all …

Narcissistic Lover 
Red flags flew from the very beginning. At the time, I had two children already and was 23. I was still naive when it came to love. I was already in …

The Abuse That Will Always Be With Me 
Hi, my name is Hope-Lynn. I am 15 years old, and I am in foster care. The reason I'm in foster care is because I was being abused by my birth mother's …

Mary's Story: The Nightmare, the Survival 
My name is Mary, and I am a two time survivor of domestic violence. I have been married three times. Well, I was young, so very young at 20 and married …

A looser 
I did not know that there are so many like me. 13 years of abuse and the biggest price I paid was my 13 year old committed suicide. I eloped and got married …

Stopping Domestic Violence is a Lifelong Mission 
This is an abbreviated summary: In 1973, when I was 16 years old, and long before domestic violence shelters and prevention education agencies were …

Vidication 
My ex-husband was married to a friend of mine. I wasn't attracted to him as a lover or in a romantic sense at all and I knew him for 20 years before we …

need help from the system as well as abuser 
Dear Friends, I want to tell you a story .It is not pretty and if you had told me three weeks ago, this would have happened to me I would have told …

WTF 
If there is a God, then why me? Why did he let this happen? I bet you that’s what you’re thinking. Oh, it’s not that bad. Others are worse off. Well my …

Forever Broken 
I married a Canadian at the age of 18 and moved from everyone and everything I had ever known. We were so happy or so I thought. We stayed with his …

14 Years To Leave... 
I thought at 23 years old that I finally met the person I'd live with forever. I had dated men that were immature and he was immature, had his own house …

Current Victim of Domestic Violence. My Secret.  
I am Australian and my partner is from India. I am 21 years old and he is 27. We have been together for four years. I am currently four months pregnant. …

Sleeping with the Devil 
So here it goes. This is something that is hard to talk about to anyone and so I feel the only way to get it off my chest is through this blog as I see …

I Didn't Know What Time It Was, But It Was Time 
I never thought I would be calling 911. I never thought I would be preparing for a hearing for an Order for Protection. I never thought I wouldn't cry. …

Abused 4 Years. Then He Shot Me In The Head  
I was a victim of domestic violence for nearly four years. To make a long story short, I was feed up with the abuse and decided to leave. A week after …

Surviving childhood domestic violence 
Hello everybody! I am a survivor of childhood domestic violence. I journaled my abusive childhood for years. Recently I decided to do something about it. …

Broken 
The first time he hit me, I was unaware it was coming. I learned, fast after that what the signs were. His agitation was accompanied by a couple things; …

Moving Forward 
After a long and hurtful break up with a former boyfriend who I believed I would begin a future with another guy came into my life during at a really vulnerable …

Broke 
The first time he hit me, i was unaware it was coming. I learned, fast after that what the signs were. His agitation was accompanied by a couple things, …

SURVIVING A VIOLENT FRIEND 
My story isn't typical. I moved in with a very good friend who soon became my best friend and then eventually a dependent. He didn't hit me at first, …

8 years of abuse. I'm now free yet still feel trapped 
I met my husband through my parents business, he seemed perfect, everything I had ever wanted. He was quite, handsome, from a good family, sweet and loving. …

Born, Bred and Raised Domestic Violence Fighter 
For what it's worth, I appreciate this opportunity to lend some of my experience with DV. For those of you who have survived, I applaud you and for those …

A New Day 
After dating for 6 months I got engaged to my caring prince. The person that was going to change my life for ever! The man that became my husband six moths …

Trust In the Wrong Hands 
The door slams! I see him turn around with his fists clenched and instantly I know things are not going to be good. The promises that he made to change …

How Do You Get Away? 
How do you get away from an abusing husband who is telling anybody that it is me causing all the problem. He is now trying to get everybody on his side? …

Get Out At The First Punch 
I met him in college. At first he was sweet, the best boyfriend I could ask for. We were 17. The physical abuse didn't start until years later. He …

Stop The Violence & Start The Peace  
Hi My Name Is Diane Delgado. My best friend, Marisa Nunez was killed by her husband in 2008. Every year I put a Domestic Violence Walk together in her …

Sort of a survivor?... How do you move on? 
Hi I am sort of a survivor of emotional, physical, and sexual abuse. I have spent my whole life around the wrong people and keep getting hurt. The worst …

Dont feel alone 
I am a domestic survior,My story started at the very young age of 15.My mother let me marry that creep because i was pregnant.If only i had known,but it …

I Married A Monster.... 
We decided we wanted to get married right away so with the help of my mom we got married in November 2007. Our wedding was small, but it was perfect. …

It happens to us too. 
There are many myths about domestic violence and who it happens to. One myth is that it only occurs to older women of lower education. Well, I am a senior …

Surviving the Marathon  
Every day there are things that happen to every person. Routine events, surprising events, random encounters with others, average days filled with events. …

Breaking the Cycle 
I met my ex about 4 years ago. I was working in a tattoo shop and he was the god-brother of my co-worker. We didn't like each other too much but quickly …

I dont know if its love but im still here  
I met him at my mother’s house. He liked me and hit on me in front of my mother for a good year before I ever gave him the time of day as I was in an abusive …

Unnoticeably Broken 
I was 14 years old and started dating this guy. I never would have thought that I would ever be in a relationship like I was in. It all started out great …

clueless! 
I was married for almost 20 years. I never met him because we grew up together and lived one street from each other. We have two children together and …

why did i wait so long? 
I left my abusive ex 3 months ago after being together for 12 years. Funny enough when I decided to leave it was over something which was nothing (well …

The worst man I ever Had 
When I say I was living in a private hell it is an understatement. At seventeen, I was beaten, abused mentally, abused physically, and abused financially. …

Mother's agony 
My daughter got involved in a battering relationship 6 years ago. She was only 18. Before she met him we had been very close and worked on a variety of …

I'm only 18. 
Today I was slapped down & choked by a man who Is labeled "my boyfriend". I have scratches on my face, & a swollen neck. I'm not going to make this story …

A Story of Hope 
It has been 26 years since I was involved in a domestically abusive relationship...but sad to say, I recently, 2 months ago, received extensive counseling …

15 Year Domestic Abuse-Burnt My Friend's House Down and Tried To Run Us Off The Road! 
I was in a domestic violence relationship for 15 years and have one daughter. I left him numerous times, but always went back because he would threaten …

First Hint of Purposeful Hurt - Leave and Never Look Back 
My story started in a very innocent way. I had no clue, I had been chosen for fate he sealed for me. I was nineteen. He was twenty-six and married. …

love doesnt hurt..love is kind... 
This is also my first blog. I never knew what abuse was until I experienced it myself. At the beginning, I never relized it would end a surviving story. …

My Nightmare. 
My story was nothing compared to all the other stories, I thought, as I had spent some time reading them these past few months. Than I noticed that one …

THE FINAL SLAP!!!  
I had never seen a man so handsome and so friendly until I met him. I loved his sympathy and innocence. His charisma and fragility screamed and sought …

My story 
As a little girl, I always witnessed woman in my family being abused. I saw my grandmother being dragged out of the house and beaten by my grandfather. …

i still love my husband 
I met my husband when I was 19. He was so handsome and strong. I had never dated a man like this. We started taking and soon after I learned he had a son …

Picking Up The Pieces... 
I finally had the courage to leave my abusive marriage of 3 1/2 years. I felt so ashamed and I never understood the dynamic of an abusive relationship …

I finally saw the light.  
High School Years I was 14 when I met my abuser in the fall of 1998 at age 14. I was already a broken, beat down little girl due to the abuse I'd witnessed …

Escaping domestic abuse - but the battle has just started 
6 months in my new rented home with two of my children, I have not seen my step son all this time. I open the post box to find another clipping out of …

D.V. Survivors, myself and my daughter 
My daughter and I are survivors of domestic violence! I would like to share my story, but for now I need to vent about my current situation. We have just …

Careful what you wish for....... 
I was 20 when i first met my partner. I had a 10 month old son and as a single mother longed for a partner and loving father figure for the two of us. …

Surviving In More Than Hell 
This is my first blog ever..I just feel the need to finally tell someone my story. It all started after my divorce from my husband that i married at …

Broken dreams & broken bones 
Hello my name is Jen. I'm writing this while laying on my mother's couch. My sons laying in my lap screaming for daddy, and I am recovering from a broken …

Until You Say Uncle 
Julie sent me the below link to her story, "Until I Say Uncle" a long while back. I apologized for my lengthy delay in posting her vivid, and heart wrenching …

Hiding behind the truth. 
This is my first blog post ever. I was 17 when I actually got into a relationship. It was my first and like all young women at that age I thought it was …

Surviving in 3months hell with DID ex-husband 
It was 13 years ago and I'm still on the way to true recovery. I married with a man who had four personalities. Knowing that, I thought it was possible …

EX-Spouse Burned Down Home 
the father of my children burned down my home that I shared with my parents. we are forced to start over from scratch and struggle daily because of this. …

Escaping the monster that was my husband 
My name is Regina, and I am a Survivor of Domestic Violence. I experienced physical abuse by the hands of a person I loved dearly. I never thought in …

Free At Last of Domestic Violence in RSM, CA., USA 
I had never been exposed to abuse and believed the first time it happened to me that it was my fault. That is what he had told me. So I brushed it off …

Happy Now in Maryland 
My abuser and I dated long-distance for a year before we moved in together. During that year we only saw each other about one weekend a month but even …

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