Surviving in 3months hell with DID ex-husband

by K
(Tokyo, Japan)

It was 13 years ago and I'm still on the way to true recovery.

I married with a man who had four personalities. Knowing that, I thought it was possible to live together.

He had many problem, eating very less and thinking it was right, forced me not to spend money for food(even though I was earning money as a professional).

I lost 20kg in 3 months. My (usually not harmful) ovarian tumor had exploded. My "then husband" left me in pain and went to sleep. I called an ambulance by myself and kept my life in my hands.

It was determined that I lost 1 liter blood. I could have died if I hadn't call ambulance, or had I faint before I was able to call for the abulance.

Back at home, I quickly planned a divorce. I was majoring in local government and social welfare while at the University. It really worked for me.

This is the Japanese situation, I knew I could not live on welfare if I was homeless. So I began to search for small apartments which accept pets. I have a cat. At that time my cat was 1 years old, and actually saved my live staying with me 24hours/day.

Luckily I found a room, managed moving money by selling my belonging, and filled divorce papers quickly - with no problem. I hoped I could sue him, but I couldn't because his father was city council.

I had little help then, so I'm still physically weak, living as dependent adult at 45 years young. But I'm still living. I could escape. If I didn't have to run around to save myself, maybe I would not be so weak.

All I can say is, Escape, get help, get information.