My nightmare is starting all over again by: This is my nightmare
I got away it's been over two years now, I had to walk away from everything and everyone, my five children' included. I got a letter a few weeks ago and my abuser was charged with aggravated assault for choking me the day after Easter in 2012. He wouldn't let me go on Easter and I had convinced him I was going to get money from my house. He let me go. I ran and didn't go back, but he had my phone and I had my friends truck. So I went and tried to get my phone back,he started hitting me and tried to take my friends truck. He ripped up a bunch of stuff and than wrapped his hands around my neck until I blacked out and hit the ground. His mom made him let go of me and I ran. I don't know how I got the keys. I don't remember even leaving, but I got back to my house and the owner of the truck, my ex husband, and the police came. They took me to get looked at and said they had never seen anyone with a throat so red. I think it was bad ( I remember the next day it was so hard to breathe) I just know I was in a lot of pain and my voice was different. I couldn't really talk and I think I just went to my ex's and went to sleep. Well he won't leave me alone again. He wants to talk to me about court. I know he will probably hurt me really bad or worse and I am so tired of dealing with all this and I want it to stop. I just want my life back. I have realized that i might have stalk homes syndrome and I need help but don't know where to start. It's possible to get away It's hard and painful, but I'm happy and safe now. Goodbye everyone thank you for reading my story.
Aug 24, 2012
Please give more info so someone can help you make some fast decisions by: Anonymous
Hello, I am writing with great concern for your life. Your life was given to you and was intended for greater purpose. You are victim of domestic assault as we speak. You do not want to be a voice that is crying out and shut off by your abuser. Be strong seek immediate help! I want to help u, but you have to want it to recieve it. Please give me some information to follow up with you ASAP. Please figure out a confidential way to contact me. Create an email and send it to me and then delete it after we have contacted. We will go from there. Your life will get better and better as you seek a hand to pull you from the darkness. If you are not comfortable please go to an emergency safehouse and talk with an advocate. These advocates most likely have been in the same shoes you are standing in right now. You are strong and I know you can do this. Sincerely, Your sister in Christ.
Aug 24, 2012
My Nightmare by: Anonymous
I feel so sorry for you but God will avenge you.
Aug 20, 2012
I can't get him to leave me alone. by: Anonymous
As I'm walking down the street here he comes, throws my phone charger, my coke, grabs me, drags me across the street to his house, I get away. He comes after me, I get ahead of him.(yes people are watching), he hits me..hard. Hard enough to knock me ahead of him, I get angry (it hurt bad). I pull my phone out say that's it, the last time your ever going to put your hands on me, and I try calling the police. He freaks..comes at me. I fumble the stupid smart phone and put it away before he gets it, he drags me back to his house....
Aug 06, 2012
You're Not Alone! by: Pam
Thank you for the update!
You are not alone! I created this website to make sure that you wouldn't be alone. I can't physically be with you, but I am only a note away... and you have a following of wonderfully supportive women!
Can you find a shelter? It may take a few phone calls. When you call let them know that you are being watched and followed and ask if there is assistance, or if the police can escort you.
The thing I like about many of the shelters, is that they incorporate many different services; shelter and meals, legal council, DSHS services, counseling and many other services.
Instead of trying to figure it all out by yourself, there are specialists that can walk with you and work with and for you and your children.
Physically, you are alone and MUST advocate for yourself and your children, but you have a wonderful support group here cheering you on and many others that want to assist you.
You can do this for yourself and your kids! There is a happy, healthy future waiting.
You are in my thoughts and prayers!
Aug 05, 2012
my nightmare you asked for me to comment by: Anonymous
hi, I am not sure what to say really but the going rate is 3 days I go without him calling me or bothering me, I can't do anything or go anywhere without him knowing, I dont know who he has watching me but it sucks. somedays are harder than others and everyday I remember something I had forgotten. I guess it was worse than I let myself believe, I cry so much and no I have no family, I have nobody. I'm totally alone and homeless, I've only been in two relationships my whole life and sad thing is they are exactly the same, I'm still married, I have been for 16 years and have 5 children. I had the choice to stay with my husband or leave with the clothes on my back, I left with nothing. He refuses to divorce me and makes like $9,000 a month but I'm on the street? He beats my children and I've got proof and have called cps and the police but nothing helps. I've given up on life.
Jul 29, 2012
Family? by: Anonymous
Can I ask where your family is in all of this? As a mother of a 20 something daughter of my own who is dealing with this problem I have such difficulty understanding why she won't come home. I have relatives who would put her up in several areas of the country and help her get a new start if she's afraid to actually come home to live with me. She lives within a few miles of her abuser thousands of miles from home and I can't even persuade her to move to a different area of the city. I wonder if you have a family waiting to help you.
Jul 20, 2012
Please Read by: Anonymous
My heart goes out to both of you dearly. I am no where near a counselor, but I am the daughter of a victim of domestic violence.
My mother went through very similar trials with my father, but listening to your stories the abuse you are stating is severe.
My father sexually abused me for over 10 years and at the time started abusing my sister. I had left home by that time (I was 19 years old) My mom found out and left him. While my mom was with him he had raped her, pulled a gun on her, she left one winter night with nothing but shorts and a tshirt on trying to get away and never went back to him. She stayed with her mother for 3 weeks and went back to the house to get some of her things and that is when he snapped. My grandmother and mother were at my childhood house and my father pulled a rifle on my mother and killed her instantly and killed himself.
I say that to say this....being a daughter, I would do anything to have my mother back. She did what she had to do for me and our family. You do not deserve this and it is not your fault.
Leave for yourself and your children. Your children are counting on your protection, they need you. If you can't do it for you, do it for them. If you don't have children do it for your future children. I wish the best to you. I will follow the comments on your story. Let me know if you need further advice or have questions.
Jul 02, 2012
Please listen. by: J
It's all about self discipline. If you make the effort to stay away from this man then you will. First, realize your self worth. You know that you're better then how you're being treated. Know that you're not alone and you shouldn't be going through this alone as well. Maybe by a friend or family member motivating you to get out of the relationship will better help you. I know it hurts but you got on this website for a reason. Get the help you need before you allow him to fatherly try and create you. baby girl it's never too late, good luck.
Jun 12, 2012
run far away! by: Anonymous
You need to stay away! I am still with my abuser and trust me it never gets better. For me I stay out of love for my kids and for him. Your story sounds a bit like mine. My story is posted here (I still love my husband). My husband has told me he would never kill me, but I don't believe him. He told me 2 yrs ago (on my birthday) that if I ever cheated on him he would do to me worse then what happened to my mother. (My mother was stabbed to death 16 yrs ago by some whorable man over drugs.) It is very hard to live with the shame of being an abused woman. If you have no ties to this man then you need to never again see him! I know why should you listen to someone you don't know and someone who is still stuck. But for your safety please listen to me. If he has done all that in 2 yrs then what else is he cappable of?