I wrote this post almost two years ago. It still brings tears to my eyes thinking back to this time. I'm so grateful I got away. I'm finally free and it's the greatest satisfaction. Life is not a walk in the park though. I'm now a single mother with 3 kids. I have trust issues, I'm struggling, and I'm worn out. But this is expected in life. You cannot grow if your not willing to go out of your comfort zone. You cannot grow if you're not willing to fall. I would chose this struggle over being in the situation I was in. And although life is hard, I'm still happy with what I have. My kids and I are safe and we are together. It is important to stand up for yourself. Believe in you and love yourself, even if it's the hardest thing to do, it is worth it. If you're too scared to reach out to a friend or family member, GOOGLE women's shelter in your area. There is even so many apps on your phone that are disguised so you can get help without him knowing. But that is all I did, I googled it then called. The state helped me and my kids with everything. They paid for our bus tickets to leave state. I transferred to another women's shelter then the healing began. They helped with therapy for all of us. Gave us housing, and even filled our home with everything we needed plus more. I'm alive, healthy, safe and happy. Keep your head up. This is one of the hardest trials you will ever have to face. You will have sleepless nights, knots in your stomach, terrible anxiety and nightmares. You will want to give up, cry and turn back. But DON'T. Stay strong. Think of the days you will be wearing a real smile. In the end you will have your life. God Bless.
Oct 30, 2015
brook hill by: john
It is delightful to read this post. i get much useful point through this post. Please keep posting such kind of post.
Mar 09, 2015
Sending love by: Anonymous
What an amazingly strong woman you are!! I hope that your new journey with your children is full of all the love and joy you deserve.
Jan 30, 2015
I'm proud of you by: Beth
You were very smart to get out and go to a shelter. He is an animal to have treated you that way. You are SO lucky to be alive! I spent four years of my life going back and forth with someone similar. The saddest part was how deeply I loved him and how many chances I gave him. I too had to go to a domestic violence shelter and I they did help point me in the right directions. Unfortunately, I was still in love and went back again - fatter from being in shelter 6 months. If you ever think of doing what I did, please trust me - you will be abused the same way. No matter what. Please pass my warning along to any other girls who say they are still in love. They can be in love for the rest of their lives if that's how they feel, but the man isn't in love with them no matter what he says. Stay safe and be the one that got away from these monsters. The guy always wants the one he can't have anyway right? So good. Be that one.
Dec 22, 2014
Help me by: Anonymous
My situation is very similar to yours except I have no children with him nor do I live with him but he still has complete control over every single move I make . I have absolutely no friends because of him . He verbally abuses me every single day & makes me feel guilty about everything like its my fault he' hits me & it's my fault he's so mean. I just want to know how do you get over it emotionally because even though he treats me like shit I still beg to be with him & feel like I can't live without him please help me with some advice. I'm leaving out a lot of detail because I'm not sure if you will respond
Dec 10, 2014
A New Year by: Sue
I'm so happy for you that you left. I know it's hard, but every first step is. You should be so proud of yourself I'm sure your children are. Your mom is with you every step. Take care and good luck for the future. Oh and I hope you had a wonderful Christmas and best wishes in this new year. X
Nov 07, 2014
Great you are surviving by: Another survivor
Well done, I feel for you so much. The guilt over the children seeing all this is awful. Keep healing all of you xxxx
Nov 02, 2014
You made the right decision by: A.C
Good job K.R. There is nothing better that you could have done for your children than leave that man. Yes, like you said you lost everything materialistically, but you saved your children from carrying the trauma of witnessing this horror for the rest of their lives. Like you, I grew up in an abusive household, and each and every time I reflect back on my developmental years, I simply remember the times when my dad hit me, my mum or my brother. No child should have to ever witness such brutality, because at the end of the day these events not only rob these children of their happiness but of the fond memories that they should have been forming when they were growing up
Oct 06, 2014
strong soul by: Anonymous
I'm proud of you KR. Stay strong. Your a woman, a mother, and now a teacher. thank you.